It’s just another day in your home. You’re having dinner with your partner or your family and you immediately grab your meal from the kitchen and plop down in front of the TV to watch the next episode of the show you are currently binging. While this may be exactly what you need after a long day, it’s nice to mix things up once in a while. Tonight for dinner, how about a side of the conversation? Conversation starters can be essential for couples who have a strong bond and are connected.
Breaking up the digital monotony of our day not only has the mental and emotional benefits of connecting with your partner but also has actual physical benefits too.
Here’s what not to do: do not make it seem like a chore. Remember, while you may be in the mood for conversation – it may not be what your partner wants or needs at the time. Be mindful and engage your partner or family accordingly.
Coming up with the right questions to ask can be tough. A good conversation stems from good conversation starters and I’ll get into those below. However, if you’re looking for a quick one sheeter with fun (and daring) questions to ask each other download my free list here. You can save it to your phone and pull it out when you’re in the car together or even having dinner.
42 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR PARTNER
Effective Conversation Starters For Couples
1. What does the perfect dessert look like for you?
Did you always think that your partner hated carrot cake? Well, you might be surprised. This is a good one to keep in the back of your mind.
2. What is one thing you’ve always wanted, but would never purchase for yourself?
Write this one down. Your partner may have a birthday, graduation, or other occasion coming up. Do you know how you always complain that they are hard to shop for? This is your chance to shine.
3. Write your dream bio. What does it sound like?
Asking someone about their dream job is one thing, but what does their bio look like? Are they living in the city? Suburbs? Do they have kids? What do they do for their career? In their spare time?
4. What charities and projects would they like to be involved in?
If you had all the time and money in the world, is there a cause that you are particularly interested in?
5. What’s one thing you dislike but wish you liked?
This is an interesting topic. You’ll get interesting answers from things like the opera to watching baseball.
6. What date of ours do you remember the most?
Fair warning: This one may surprise you. It’s in these moments we realize how much more we remember the sweet and simple things over extravagant ones.
7, Can you guess each other’s love language?
Love languages are important, but it’s more important to know your partners than your own. Read up about Love Languages and how to find yours and your partners in this Love Languages post.
8. What is one quote that you live by?
Mine is one from JK Rowling. It’s interesting what ends up sticking with you over the years.
9. What is an activity you would like to watch, but never participate in?
Answer this for your partner and vice versa. It’s more fun this way.
10. Which one skill could you teach to someone else?
What do you know so well that you could literally teach a class on? Don’t take it too seriously. It could be making the best lasagna or how to groom your dog at home.
11. Share the last time you were doing something you enjoyed so much that you lost track of time.
I love this one. It’s a good reminder that when we do things we love, time flies by.
12. What kind of physical touch is the most underrated?
Seriously, don’t skip this one. It’s amazing what you’ll learn. Don’t believe me? Ask your partner to stroke your wrists gently.
13. Talk about what each other does that drives the other crazy.
This is a much nicer way than asking what is annoying about your partner.
14. What do you like to do alone?
Alone time is so important in a marriage. Remember my post about alone time in a marriage? Learn what your partner likes in order for you to give them what they need.
15. Do you have a useless secret power?
The word useless is subjective here. It could actually be very useful (cough: my dishwasher loading skills) to use your best judgment.
16. What is something you wish you started sooner?
Pro tip: Don’t give any suggestions for this one. Answer with the first thing that comes to your mind.
17. As a couple (or family) what is your biggest strength?
Go full-on Fabulous with this one. How are you both a force when you’re together?
18. Tell the other person what you admire about them.
19. What do you feel like you’re too old to do?
Have you heard of the Murtaugh List? It’s a list of things that you’ll too old to do. What is on yours? HIMYM fans will enjoy this one.
20. What’s one thing your parents did for you, that you want to do for your family?
Nothing like a good old childhood reflection.
Final Thoughts on Conversation Starters For Couples
Having good communication habits with your partner is essential to the foundation of a strong relationship. Conversation starters like these can help you bring the conversation and the fun back into your relationship. Another option is to quite literally make a game out of it. We have the game “Hot Seat” at home where we draw cards and ask the other person for the card in our hand. Other popular games are Our Moments, Holstee, Table Topics, and Hyggee which are all available on Amazon.
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